Relationship Therapy for
the Modern Couple
Start Right, Stay right
How can Imago benefit you?
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT), developed by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D of the institute for Relationship Therapy in New York, is a paradigm shift in the understanding of relationships and relational therapy. IRT is a short term therapy that combines insight and practical skills
What is the Therapy?
Couples learn to become safe and intentional, to recognize and repair the wounds of the past, and to restructure frustration and “incompatibility” as opportunities to reclaim their whole self.
My name is Hendrien van der Bijl. Im a 25 year old psychologist in the making. After I completed my honors degree in Psychology I started with my clinical training in Imago and attended numerous workshops. Today I am a freshly trained Imago psychologist and workshop assistant presenter based in Pretoria. Not only was I born into this work but has it become a passion of my own. Helping couples and relationships is my life calling. Me myself has been married to Ryno, the love of my life for 3 years now and with the help of Imago we can enjoy the adventure of love everyday.
I specialize in young couples/individuals and newly weds.
“Making a decision is the first step towards change”…
Options / Packages
1 hour sessions for couples
(1st sessions 90minutes)
While a couple can start seeing results after just one session, it is recommended that they commit to at least 8 to 12 sessions to bring a meaningful change to their relationship. Providing you with a safe, structured, and non-blaming environment, Imago Therapy gives you the insight required to maintain a strong marriage or relationship. Each session helps couples explore and nurture one another with creativity. The first session is three hours after which I will make several recommendations to assist you on the journey to healing.
For the couple in serious trouble
1-hour sessions for individuals
(1st sessions 90 minutes)
What we work with
Concepts that we engage with
Past & Present
The term Imago is Latin for “image” and refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love”. Simply put, there is often a connection between the frustrations experienced in adult relationships and early experiences
For example: If you felt abandoned as a child, you will most likely be sensitive to be alone or on your own. And often feel abandoned by your partner. The same if you felt, criticized, smothered, neglected, etc. These feelings will come up in your committed relationships.
When couples experience pain, they disconnect. This leads to a parallel relationship that feels more peaceful but is alone, separate and isolated. This can lead to breaking up, affairs, addictions or divorce. Imago Couples Therapy helps you to realize that you are not each other’s enemies. Solve the real problem: heal the pain that causes the disconnection.
Couples learn to connect through dialogue. When a problem connects with another problem, you have a power struggle. Imago Therapy helps you to connect as human beings, soul to souls, essence to essence. Then the magic of life follows.
When you feel unsafe in your relationship, you either hide away from contact or you want too much contact. That creates a nightmare in itself of feeling smothered or abandoned in relationships.
Imago teaches couples techniques on how to restore safety in their relationships when they do not feel safe. Safe is to be yourself with the other. There is no blame and critique and sulking. Results of safety are playing, intimacy, exploration, nurturing and growth