Relationship Therapy and Training For The Everyday Couple
Start Right, Stay right
Start Right Imago Relationship Therapy is a short term therapy or form of couples counseling and coaching that combines insight and practical skills.
Imago Relationship Therapy provides you with all the tools and techniques to transform your marriage. It also brings immediate relief. We can help you to discover the relationship of your dreams through a healing process of dialogue and reconnection
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How can Imago Relationship Therapy benefit you?
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT), developed by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D of the institute for Relationship Therapy in New York, is a paradigm shift in the understanding of relationships and relational therapy. IRT is a short term therapy that combines insight and practical skills
What is Imago Relationship Therapy?
Couples learn to become safe and intentional, to recognize and repair the wounds of the past, and to restructure frustration and “incompatibility” as opportunities to reclaim their whole self.
My name is Hendrien van der Bijl. And I am a relationship enthusiast. After I completed my honors degree in Psychology I started with my clinical training in Imago relationship therapy, attended numerous workshops and I completely fell in love with this work. Today I am a well trained Imago psychologist and workshop assistant presenter based in Pretoria East. Helping couples to live their relationship dream, is my life calling. I myself have been married to Ryno, the love of my life for 6 years now (together for 11) and with the help of Imago, we can enjoy the adventure of love every day.
What is great about Imago Therapy is that it supports you in every season of couplehood. From being inlove, moving in tgether, planning a wedding, beging pregnant, becoming parents to multiple children, mid-life crises, empty nest syndrome, or life as an older couple. It does not matter in what phase you are, Imago can help you to stay connected and live the best version of your relationship- everyday.
I also work alongside Kobus van der Merwe and you are welcome to browse here to see more of the work we do.
“Making a decision is the first step towards change”…
Options / Packages
Session for couples
(1st sessions 2 Hours)
While a couple can start seeing results after just one session, it is recommended that they commit to at least 8 to 12 sessions to bring a meaningful change to their relationship. Providing you with a safe, structured, and non-blaming environment, Imago Therapy gives you the insight required to maintain a strong marriage or relationship. Each session helps couples explore and nurture one another with creativity. The first session is three hours after which I will make several recommendations to assist you on the journey to healing.
Please phone 081 559 9130 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to make an appointment.
For the couple in need of serious support
R20 000 Weekdays
R25 000 Weekends
Transitioning from a couple to a family
(Can be done in a session, intensive or workshop format)
What we work with
Concepts that we engage with
Past & Present
The term Imago is Latin for “image” and refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love”. Simply put, there is often a connection between the frustrations experienced in adult relationships and early experiences
For example: If you felt abandoned as a child, you will most likely be sensitive to be alone or on your own. And often feel abandoned by your partner. The same if you felt, criticized, smothered, neglected, etc. These feelings will come up in your committed relationships.
When couples experience pain, they disconnect. This leads to a parallel relationship that feels more peaceful but is alone, separate and isolated. This can lead to breaking up, affairs, addictions or divorce. Imago Couples Therapy helps you to realize that you are not each other’s enemies. Solve the real problem: heal the pain that causes the disconnection.
Couples learn to connect through dialogue. When a problem connects with another problem, you have a power struggle. Imago Therapy helps you to connect as human beings, soul to souls, essence to essence. Then the magic of life follows.
When you feel unsafe in your relationship, you either hide away from contact or you want too much contact. That creates a nightmare in itself of feeling smothered or abandoned in relationships.
Imago teaches couples techniques on how to restore safety in their relationships when they do not feel safe. Safe is to be yourself with the other. There is no blame and critique and sulking. Results of safety are playing, intimacy, exploration, nurturing and growth